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That Fresh New Blog Smell

Smell it? A new blog out there in the universe. What will make this different you wonder. Do I need another blog to read? Another persons thoughts out there ? The answer is , most likely not. Most likely there are many 40 something year old women on a pursuit of their best selves. Most likely you do not need another blog about "one woman's journey to find a better , happier outlook on life".  So why? I am doing this, as are most blogs are, selfishly. I want to find the threads in which I can pull on to bring me back to aha moments and a blog is the journal my 16 year old self would have wished into the world.

Inspiration: The Happiness Project. Gretchen Rubin's wonderful book about truly being happy, and the journey there.
https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Project-Revised-Aristotle-Generally-ebook/dp/B017H7FUIK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1507318555&sr=8-1&keywords=the+happiness+project

I have voiced loudly, my disdain of self help . No Secret for me, no Highly Effective People, no Oprah, no Lifetime channel, basically, hands off my psyche. So why now, why the change and why am I buying into it? I have a wonderful family. A caring husband of 20 year, 3 fantastic children, both parents, a sister who is a best friend. I have a job I went out of my comfort zone for, I can pay my bills, I have friends I enjoy time with. I would say , if asked, that I am happy. Possibly not happy in all moments, but in the grand scheme of life I am happy.

What I also am is negative. I will say what music, tv, books, people I DONT like before I say what I do like. I am passionate in my dislike for things. I leave lists, all of things to do , pointing out those things that have not been done, things that are lacking, what is still needing to be done. I am a NAG. YUP, a NAG. Full on , cant stop myself, even when I know I am nagging, and it is making those around me miserable. That loving husband, tuning out, my children, telling me I am not noticing the positive, my sister, all the past grievances of a trip shown rather than all the best parts.

How do I stop?  Because believe me , I want to stop. I want to stop the moment I hear my voice turn shrill, the second I realized i have said these things more than once, the crazy heart beating where i know its coming. With my love of books, I looked for books on Nagging specifically, the Self help titles were overwhelming, and of course negative. The exact part of myself that needs work. I felt as if the books were nagging at me. Another Google search with the word  "nag" showed this wonderful bright blue sky, a cheerful bird and the title "The Happiness Project" and I was hooked.

This Happier on the Horizon blog will be my look into myself, my search for that horizon where I can ask and not nag, where I can share my successes and failures...and look at that, success was first in the sentence, so I am on my way.


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